By Alina Frank and Craig Weiner
With Permission from the New Spirit Journal
What do champagne, the neon ball in Times Square, and New Year’s resolutions all have in common? They all appear sparkly and bright on December 31 and almost the next day have disappeared. Research shows that up to 88% of New Year’s resolutions end in failure, yet each year more than half of Americans still make them. What is it about the changing of the year that either inspires or pressures people to make such a great effort to try and change something that they have been unable to accomplish over the past 365 days?
It’s the unacceptability of the current condition. Whether you are talking about your weight, your relationship, your job, or anything else, sheer willpower only goes so far in breaking unhealthy patterns. People believe they are exerting free will in their decision making, but research shows greater than 40% of the actions people performed each day weren’t actual decisions, but habits.
It’s All About the Habit
Charles Duhigg in his book, The Power of Habit, writes that habits “can emerge outside our consciousness…they often happen without our permission…(they) shape our lives far more than we realize… and they cause our brains to cling to them at the exclusion of all else, including common sense.” Some habits and patterns serve us well. Others don’t. It’s those that suck away our joy, health, and deep connection that so many of us wish to let go of on December 31. The turning of a “new leaf” or new calendar is one of the few times when we traditionally pause to reflect upon the quality of our lives and take measure.
The question that remains is if wanting to change is enough? Unfortunately, usually, no. We have worked with thousands of individuals who in the past, had come up short despite strong intentions and efforts.
What do we do differently with them that allows for change? Well, you may have heard of a funny-looking process that’s used effectively by millions around the world to create surprisingly quick transformative changes in their health, love, and work, called EFT. It stands for the Emotional Freedom Techniques, and is often referred to as “tapping.” You may have seen it on the Dr. Oz show or read testimonials by folks like Bruce Lipton and Deepak Chopra. It’s sometimes referred to as an emotional version of acupuncture and it’s used to reduce the stress and unconscious blocks that stop us from creating change in our lives.
Here would be one way that you could begin to explore how EFT tapping could help you to release a block that might be a common New Year’s resolution.
First find an issue you wish to work on. Let’s say for example that you wish to lose 20 pounds. It’s important to understand that with EFT, the more specific you are, the more effective it will be. So, find a specific memory of a time in the past that you tried, but failed to follow through on your resolution to change. In this example, we will recall a dinner party with friends at which you helped yourself to three servings of chocolate ganache cake after promising yourself to only have one small serving.
Step One: The Setup. Begin by thinking of the event and noticing what emotion comes up for you. Perhaps it’s embarrassment from seeing someone noticing your enjoyment of the extra helpings. Next, notice if you can feel embarrassment anywhere in your body. Lastly, guess at how strong that emotion is on a 0-10 increasing intensity scale. That is what we need to get started.
Take four fingers of your dominant hand and gently tap repeatedly on the outside “karate chop” point of the other hand and repeat the following: “Even though I feel____ (i.e. this embarrassment) thinking about ______(i.e. the three servings of cake), I still deeply and completely accept myself.” Repeat three times.
Alina Frank and Dr. Craig Weiner are certified EFT Universe trainers and teach across the United States on using EFT to expand and manifest abundance in peoples’ lives. For further information, go to www.EFTtappingtraining.com