Featured in this podcast is Regine Monestime, JD. She is a practicing attorney, public speaker and retreat leader/coach who uses EFT to facilitate transformational change, primarily in the black female community. In this special episode we explore the uncomfortable, the emotional side of white privilege…we are living in a time of what feels to some like breaking down but can more accurately be described as a time of breaking open. We discuss the notion of transforming anger into energy and passion to create lasting change and how white people are being given an opportunity to get uncomfortable, to feel their shadow and to use EFT to move through the guilt, shame, numbness during this important time. For more information on Regine’s work, her website is: blackbutterflyjourneys.com.
Below you will find a terrific list of her recommended resources for further learning on these issues.
Spiritual/Emotional – You’re a woman, mother, teacher – you can raise and teach your children to be compassionate inclusive, kind and anti-racist. As healer, teacher, coach and leader, you can lead your family, friends and community towards an understanding of why ignoring racism and white privilege is real and harmful.
Social – Examine your social circle and seek to broaden it. Go to lunch with Black people, invite them to your house and vice-versa. Start or join a Black book club or some other organization. If you participate in some type of group (personal or business), seek to diversify it actively and intentionally.
Career/Business – Hire, promote, mentor, teach and subcontract young Black professionals. Lend your expertise to help advance the life/business/career of a Black person. Be a coach and advocate for them.
Financial – Buy Black (look at businesses that are Black owned or supportive of Black people), Bank at Black banks, and invest in Black businesses and business owners. You can support https://blackoutcoalition.org/ and https://webuyblack.com/
Political – Support protests, engage with your local government, participate and ask for equity with spending of public dollars and whether their inclusive of Black business owners and residents. Support organizations that are reputable and doing serious work. www.campaignzero.com and www.colorofchange.com
Ask your City officials to sign the 8 can’t wait pledge https://8cantwait.org/
My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism by Robin DiAngelo
Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America by Ibram X.Kendi
White Rage: The Unspoken Truth of Our Racial Divide by Carol Anderson
Films and TV Series:
13th (Ava DuVernay)
American Son (Kenny Leon)
Dear White People (Justin Simien)
See You Yesterday (Stefon Bristol)
Selma (Ava DuVernay)
When They See Us (Ava DuVernay)
Blindspotting (Carlos López Estrada)
If Beale Street Could Talk (Barry Jenkins)
The Hate U Give (George Tillman Jr.)
King In The Wilderness
True Justice: Bryan Stevenson’s FIght for Equality*
Black Power Mixtape: 1967-1975
The Black Panthers: Vanguard of the Revolution
Just Mercy (Destin Daniel Cretton)
Free in the U.S. in June
I Am Not Your Negro (James Baldwin doc)
Also available on Kanopy via your library
Fruitvale Station (Ryan Coogler)
Clemency (Chinonye Chukwu)
Ten “Must Watch” Black History Documentaries
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Integrating EFT and Polyvagal Theory Episode 40 | 27 September 2022