Mary asked me to help her with a health issue that she had been trying to clear up on her own with EFT. The emotional core issue was her fear of people in her life leaving or abandoning her. Throughout her life she had experienced loss. First by her very young mother who left Mary to be raised primarily by her grandparents and then later by a series of friends, lovers, and co-workers.
Good EFT practitioners are great detectives searching around for all related aspects to a problem or challenge but the real magic happens within your own body. Most practitioners make sure that their clients know how to do EFT on their own and empower their clients to do just that in the form of homework.The real knowledge and awareness that your body is able to heal itself, after you’ve known the opposite (that the body can fail/become dysfunctional), is a real blessing that often translates into a renewed feeling of optimism.
As a practitioner, EFT mentor, and trainer (over 2000 clients and students around the world) I can say that I consistently see the same mistakes among tappers. The one thing I hear most often from a new client (even practitioners who are my clients) is that they just aren’t making progress and seeing really verifiable results out in the real world. The reasons are pretty basic if you’ve studied EFT for some time however I still see this so much I thought they were definitely worth repeating.
Life is all about changing and learning. When we aren’t growing we can get hit with what I call the “cosmic two by four.” These types of traumas in our adult lives can look like the breakup of a relationship, being diagnosed with a frightening disease, or the loss of a job. That kind of journey into the depths of despair can also be seen as life throwing us into a full course correction. Many traditions speak of the momentous shifts coming from these traumas as a “Zen Slap” or a “Shaman’s Blow.” Here’s a parable that helps to illustrate this idea.