Twitter, Facebook, emails, texting, having access to hundreds of television channels- we now have more than a million ways to get distracted. I wouldn’t call myself a procrastinator but I have found that there have been certain situations that I have put off until the last moment. Science is now showing that it’s due to… Read More »
Life is all about changing and learning. When we aren’t growing we can get hit with what I call the “cosmic two by four”. This can look like the breakup of a relationship, being diagnosed with a frightening disease or the loss of a job. That kind of journey into the depths of despair can also be seen as life throwing us into a full course correction.
There has been a lot written about the importance of finding a core issue. In fact, my ability to find core issues quickly is something people often say about my work. Core issues are your assumptions about the world and who you are. It’s often reflected in the way you behave. Often they are subconscious and hidden to you. One of the things I love about EFT is it’s ability to jog the subconscious mind and allow ideas and concepts to come to the forefront of consciousness. Core issues are the framework of your reality-
EFT utilizes several concepts that are aspects of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP. One of the most important concepts, especially when working on life challenges, is the idea of congruence. Congruence could be defined as “rapport within oneself, or internal and external consistency.” Another simple way of thinking about it is the compliance between your ideal self and your actual self. I also think that the larger societal conversation about the need for authenticity is very resonant with this concept of congruence.
Tim walks into his boss’s office saying that he’d like a raise since he had been doing the job of 3 people. His boss says, “I can’t give you a raise but if you tell me who those other 2 are, I’ll fire them” In these unstable economic times, it is not uncommon to have… Read More »
Two of the most difficult issues to work with are that of two personality extremes that are on the same continuum, those that have been referred to as borderlines and narcissists and those who are in relationship with them. Obviously I do not treat these people for those conditions but sometimes they are referred to me by their mental health care professionals. I have heard from a number of therapists, that they choose to not work with individuals who acknowledge themselves as having these disorders. They feel that the odds of recovery and healing from these conditions are too low. My point of interest isn’t in helping those who are unfortunately plagued with these issues but with the people that are in relationship with them.
You might consider yourself a rational and logical person. You might be convinced that as an EFT coach that your are perfectly neutral and not bringing any biases to your client sessions. You might think that you don’t judge people. You see yourself as open-minded. Are you really as objective as you think you are? As Gary Craig used to say, “Everybody judges everybody else, period. You just have to get over it and not prevent this from stopping you from fulfilling your dreams.”
I recently read about a study that was conducted over a period of twenty five years at the University of Virginia with children who have instances of recalling what they characterized as having experienced past life recall. Most of these children have clear prior to conception memories between the ages of two until seven years of… Read More »
People ask us if EFT can help anxiety or excessive worrying all the time. Continuing research shows EFT to be very effective for working with anxiety. As an EFT coach I am very careful to find out if a client has been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and is under treatment for it before I initiate working with them and if so, I ask permission to communicate with their provider. This last month I have had more requests for working with people complaining of this more than I can ever recall.